I was referred to Di for councelling during a particularly difficult time in my life. I felt like everything was falling apart, I felt incredibly low, and couldn’t see a way forward. I felt trapped in a life full of problems and upset. I was going through an acrimonious divorce from an extremely angry and controlling man. My (previously lovely) teenage daughter developed problems with anger and attention seeking behaviours, and I was in the midst of transferring my son with educational needs to an appropriate secondary school. The first sessions were, I recall, very painfull, sometimes distressing, although I always felt ‘relief’ after each session. After the first few sessions, Di was able to support me through my feelings, occasionally challenge them, and enabled me to see things differently, and change my own thoughts. She gave me strategies to make positive changes in my life and ‘permission’ to say no, clearly, without apologising, and self confidence to dis-engage from people with negative behaviours, be more assertive, focus on what was important, and spend time nurturing my children and their needs, rather than get caught-up in lifes dramas!! I was able to grieve for the marriage that had ended, without bitterness or resentment, and move on, a happy and confident single mum. (Four years later, both children are happy and settled and achieving in the things they want to) I cannot thank Di and praise her skills enough. She is a sensible, warm listener, and gently coached me when I most needed it
Article by Diane Pulley
Diane Pulley is a BACP accredited and UKRC psychotherapist and Life Coach having graduated from Warwick university. She has worked in private practise for many years with clients presenting various issues, from trauma, depression, anxiety and self confidence. Diane works with both individuals and couples. Her experience has lead her to work with corporate clients delivering stress management training for both staff and management. Aspire You has been born from a personal journey, of Diane's own marriage breaking down after 28 years, when she identified there is a need to support women through this process and help them rebuild their lives. "everyone has the potential to lead fulfilling lives and i am committed to helping individuals achieve that desire"