When you feel you are being criticised stay in your adult:

The adult is the part of your personality which can be rational and objective. Judge wether criticism being given is:

a) Being given by someone whose opinion you value and

b) Whether it is fair and constructive.

Use your adult to remind you that it is aspects of behaviour which are being criticised and it need not be a total rejection of you.

Article by Diane Pulley

Diane Pulley is a BACP accredited and UKRC psychotherapist and Life Coach having graduated from Warwick university. She has worked in private practise for many years with clients presenting various issues, from trauma, depression, anxiety and self confidence. Diane works with both individuals and couples. Her experience has lead her to work with corporate clients delivering stress management training for both staff and management. Aspire You has been born from a personal journey, of Diane's own marriage breaking down after 28 years, when she identified there is a need to support women through this process and help them rebuild their lives. "everyone has the potential to lead fulfilling lives and i am committed to helping individuals achieve that desire"