What is the therapeutic relationship?


There as some basic fundamentals that need to be in place in order for therapy to be effective, The most important being trust in the relationship. Once they are then in place the work can be start and change can be effective

  • The client will be helped to find out and to exercise more of their own personal power with regard to understanding and evaluating their actions, in the past and present and in making decisions for the future
  • I as a counsellor am a guest within the client’s world of experience
  • The two persons (the client and the counsellor) are in psychological contact
  • To experience someone else’s reality, no matter how different from ours, as if it were our own “to see their world through their eyes”
  • As material is given by the client it is the therapists function to help the client recognise the emotions which he feels, as if holding a mirror up to the client and showing him what the therapist sees, reflecting
  • The recognition of the fundamental worth of every human being, not because of what they have achieved or even of their potential but simply because they are another human entity with needs, drives, hopes and fears
  • Warmth and acceptance
  • Genuineness on the therapist part
  • Constructive honest feedback not criticism refraining from judging attacking or denigrating
  • Authenticity is about not forcing our world on others

When all of the above is in place then the therapeutic relationship is formed.

Article by Diane Pulley

Diane Pulley is a BACP accredited and UKRC psychotherapist and Life Coach having graduated from Warwick university. She has worked in private practise for many years with clients presenting various issues, from trauma, depression, anxiety and self confidence. Diane works with both individuals and couples. Her experience has lead her to work with corporate clients delivering stress management training for both staff and management. Aspire You has been born from a personal journey, of Diane's own marriage breaking down after 28 years, when she identified there is a need to support women through this process and help them rebuild their lives. "everyone has the potential to lead fulfilling lives and i am committed to helping individuals achieve that desire"