How to improve your resilience

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Definition of resilience: is someone or something that bounces back into shape or recovers quickly.
Example an elastic band being stretched then returning to its normal size after being let go.

Emotional resilience is the ability to adapt to a highly stressful situation or crisis.
People who are more resilient are capable of adapting to adversity.
They can manage the stress caused by life changes.

5 tips for resilience


Positive relationships

Is having a clear perception of your personality, including strengths, weaknesses, thoughts, beliefs, motivation and emotions. Self-awareness allows you to understand other people, how they  perceive you, your attitude and your responses to them in the moment.
Mindfulness:is a state of paying attention to the present.
When your mindful you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance. It means living in the moment and awakening to the present experience.

It is unique to each individual it is how we meet our basic fundamental emotional needs and paying attention to meeting those needs.
Putting time aside each and every day to doing something that gives us pleasure, however small.

Positive relationships:
These are the people who support and care for us, in turn who we care for too.
Connecting with others humans is a fundamental need and a profound experience. By building positive relationships we experience a greater sense of fulfilment and in turn feel more supported and connected.
They help us feel more positive healthier and happier with our lives.

It is a recognition that we belong to and serve something bigger than ourselves. It helps us to shape and identify the attitude and mindset we have toward others and the events we experience.
Examples of how we  find purpose  can be in our faith, family, political party, or being part of a club or organisation.

Try focusing on the 5 areas above to enhance your resilience.

Article by Diane Pulley

Diane Pulley is a BACP accredited and UKRC psychotherapist and Life Coach having graduated from Warwick university. She has worked in private practise for many years with clients presenting various issues, from trauma, depression, anxiety and self confidence. Diane works with both individuals and couples. Her experience has lead her to work with corporate clients delivering stress management training for both staff and management. Aspire You has been born from a personal journey, of Diane's own marriage breaking down after 28 years, when she identified there is a need to support women through this process and help them rebuild their lives. "everyone has the potential to lead fulfilling lives and i am committed to helping individuals achieve that desire"