How TLC can move you through the pain barrier


Hi Di its …… I used to see you for therapy sessions. I just wanted to let you know I left my husband the weekend. It started getting really bad again and I din’t want to spend the rest of my life being abused. He will never change. Everything you said was right and I just wanted to say thank you.


When client’s enter into therapy what do we as the therapist want to offer them:

  1. A safe environment
  2. Confidentiality
  3. A place to feel truly heard
  4. A place to explore and clarify their choices
  5. None judgmental environment
  6. To build rapport with the client
  7. Reflection

If the client experiences all of the above then movement will take place, often not straight away, it can often take a period of time to resonate. With the above client she was not ready to leave her husband she wanted …. felt…… she had to keep trying.

However once she had engaged in therapy and identified his behaviour was abusive, even though he was not violent his mental abuse was immensely damaging, she had awakened her awareness to a different way of being. Her unconscious awareness had been bought into her conscious awareness.

You don’t need to stay in pain……

Article by Diane Pulley

Diane Pulley is a BACP accredited and UKRC psychotherapist and Life Coach having graduated from Warwick university. She has worked in private practise for many years with clients presenting various issues, from trauma, depression, anxiety and self confidence. Diane works with both individuals and couples. Her experience has lead her to work with corporate clients delivering stress management training for both staff and management. Aspire You has been born from a personal journey, of Diane's own marriage breaking down after 28 years, when she identified there is a need to support women through this process and help them rebuild their lives. "everyone has the potential to lead fulfilling lives and i am committed to helping individuals achieve that desire"