Hi Di its …… I used to see you for therapy sessions. I just wanted to let you know I left my husband the weekend. It started getting really bad again and I din’t want to spend the rest of my life being abused. He will never change. Everything you said was right and I just wanted to say thank you.
When client’s enter into therapy what do we as the therapist want to offer them:
- A safe environment
- Confidentiality
- A place to feel truly heard
- A place to explore and clarify their choices
- None judgmental environment
- To build rapport with the client
- Reflection
If the client experiences all of the above then movement will take place, often not straight away, it can often take a period of time to resonate. With the above client she was not ready to leave her husband she wanted …. felt…… she had to keep trying.
However once she had engaged in therapy and identified his behaviour was abusive, even though he was not violent his mental abuse was immensely damaging, she had awakened her awareness to a different way of being. Her unconscious awareness had been bought into her conscious awareness.
You don’t need to stay in pain……
