What are the stages of Counselling


The first stage of counselling involves the client talking through their concerns whilst the counssellor listens and makes sure that they understand. The client needs to feel heard and not judged. With young people this can involve using puppets, paintsor sand. In order to enter the clients world the relevant materials need to be used in order to make psychological contact. As isues are explored, cleint and counsellor gain an understanding on the focus and priority of the counselling work. This can happen quickly or more slowly there is no set time limit.

The middle stage of counselling involves the client finding a new and more helpful perspective of their concerns. When we are embroiled in a problem it is easy to wear blinkers and keep doing things the way we have always done so, thus ensuring the same results. We can also forget just how resourceful we are. With the help and encoragement of the counsellor, the client is able to challenge ways of thinking and behaving that are not helping and start to consider making use of the skills and strengths they already have or want to acquire.

The final stage of counselling results in the client deciding what changes they want to make and taking appropriate action. Although it may be useful to know why you have not been getting what you want from life, the real change comes when you do something about making the changes, taking action. The client can then learn to identify, that they are the expert of their world and become empowered to enjoy their lives in the way they choose.

The benefits of One to One Counselling are varied. One such benefit is that we strive to work on the whole individual, with an holistic approach whether it is personal, couples, or family counselling that we are providing. Counsellors are accredited and we can offer coaching services and confidence building; we also provide stress management solutions and strategies that can be very beneficial to reducing your stress levels.

Article by Diane Pulley

Diane Pulley is a BACP accredited and UKRC psychotherapist and Life Coach having graduated from Warwick university. She has worked in private practise for many years with clients presenting various issues, from trauma, depression, anxiety and self confidence. Diane works with both individuals and couples. Her experience has lead her to work with corporate clients delivering stress management training for both staff and management. Aspire You has been born from a personal journey, of Diane's own marriage breaking down after 28 years, when she identified there is a need to support women through this process and help them rebuild their lives. "everyone has the potential to lead fulfilling lives and i am committed to helping individuals achieve that desire"